Wednesday, June 26, 2013

How to Make Friends

Things have been so fun, crazy, and amazing at my new gig. I am surrounded by some wonderful people, and the work I do is amazing! It's been two weeks, and everyday has been something new. Softball league sign ups, canoe captain's meetings, tons of service awards, walking league, Lone Ranger premiere, special Cast movie screenings, Angel's tickets. Ah! So much fun! I can't believe how much I love it! I hope my exclamation points are conveying how wonderful it is! Today I was super sick, and I couldn't go in. I was actually devastated I couldn't. Never thought I'd see the day where I was legitimately sad I couldn't go to work. 

Cast activities, events, and recognition

Ok, I could go on and on gushing about how the job and the people I work with are great, but I'm sure that will continue to come out in the next 6 months.

Of course, a new city, job, and apartment bring about one very important issue: how the heck do you make friends after college?

In college, I was surrounded by thousands of people my age, in my same circumstances, and some were in all of my classes. We went to school, church, and activities together. Even in LA, there were a number of BYU Film Alum, and I worked with about 10 other AMAZING recently graduated kids. Friends.

Now I intern in a department with 6 other adults. Like real adults. I bet most of them even have primary doctors and schedule their own hair appointments. 

After work, I watch old SNL episodes on Netflix, cook, and swiffer the floors. Not the best place to meet people. And if you meet those people you love, how do you force them to be your friends?

For example, the other night, I went to dinner with the parents at a lebanese place. Our server was an A-DORABLE, flamboyant, lebanese guy in his 20's. He was joyful and had a wonderful way of referring to food like people.
"Well, our appetizers come in half sizes, which is great, because a lot of people are nervous to really commit to a full plate."
"#33? It reminds me of Chicken Paremsan. Like they're cousins. Well, not really. It's like they're distant cousins who just met at a reunion or something."
 Perfect. Yes. It was friend-love at first sight. Alas, I couldn't figure out a normal way to give an obviously homosexual man my number without looking bizarre/pathetic. "Hey, here's my number. I know you're not interested in dating, but I was wondering if you wanted to have a Sex in the City marathon or be my new best friend forever?" Shoot, you're right, I should've done it.

I realize I will make friends, I realize relationships take time, this is not a pity party. More like a cynical observation party, and I decided to invite all of you!


  1. google it.
    There has to be something on google about how to make friends.
    am I right?

  2. Here's what you do. Give him a great complement. "You are hilarious!" "You make me laugh." "You would be super fun to hang out with!" Then let him know that you're new in town and could use more friends. Then just leave him your number. You'll look super confident and he'll pick up on that. If he's interested he'll text you. If not, his loss. And if that is the case you'll probably never see him again anyway. But honestly why wouldn't he love being your friend?!